Should We Homeschool High School?

by Jena

Many homeschoolers come to the end of eighth grade and start to get nervous. Should we keep homeschooling? Doubt sets in and college looms as an ominous black cloud waiting at the end to devour us. We just don’t have the courage to face it. I know. I’ve been there. When Peter, my first child, started eighth grade, I realized I had to answer some serious questions. What would he do with his life beyond age 18? Were we preparing him to be successful at his chosen vocation? What would that vocation be? Believe me, it kept me awake at night.

I knew he loved to learn and would probably want to go to college and follow some “brainy” path, so I wanted to give him every opportunity to get into whatever college he chose. I knew of a high school that held classes only twice a week. The other days were spent at home doing assignments. It seemed like a good bridge from full time homeschooling, so we gave it a try. He absolutely loved it, and he excelled. But at the end of the school year, we had to move, and it was back to homeschooling.

Now the college prep was all in my hands, so I researched schools and learned their requirements. I realized that test scores are important to many of the top schools, so we started working on test preparation. That was as simple as buying the Princeton Review books on the PSAT, SAT, and ACT. It drove me crazy that he would only study the week before the test. I kept telling him how important these tests were, but his most concentrated study time turned out to be the hour drive to the testing center.

I was much more nervous than he was, but tried not to show it. When he came out of the first test and said, “That wasn’t so hard. I think I missed one or two,” I about fainted! But the truth is, Peter had been studying for these exams all his life. I never censored his reading materials. I never told him something was too hard for him. If he was interested, he’d read and wrestle with the content until he understood it. And that’s half of the SAT and ACT--reading and responding. The other half is math, and he was well prepared. In 9th grade he had a great tutor, and after that he read about math and worked through various Cliffs Notes books and the Straight Forward Math series by Garlic Press.

He also was not afraid of tests. He didn’t have years of accumulated test anxiety. And he was used to sitting still for hours grappling with text--because that's what he likes to do for fun! So a three hour marathon exam was no big deal to him.

Other exams he studied for were AP Literature and AP World History. I bought study guides and used them as reference points. We had a lot of fun watching The Teaching Company lectures and writing essays from those study books. We even invited a friend to join us to add some accountability. He loved our discussions and the reading and writing, but in the end, he decided not to take the tests. If he’d gotten a certain grade, they could have counted as college credit and would have looked good on a transcript. You can learn more about those tests here.

In the middle of his junior year he decided to apply to colleges through a program called QuestBridge. They specialize in helping low income, high-achieving kids get into top colleges. Peter had to submit transcripts (I had a  transcript form and filled in what he had studied), essays, test scores, financial information, and letters of recommendation. It was a long, hard process, but we knew what was at stake. Once he passed through their filtering system, they sent his application on to the colleges he chose from their list.

The University of Chicago was his number one pick. We waited and prayed. Then one day in December last year he got a phone call. I listened in over his shoulder. The woman said, “Peter, congratulations, you are accepted by the University of Chicago with a full ride scholarship!”

As I look back, here’s my advice:

   1. If your child will probably go to college, encourage him to study for and take the PSAT in the fall of his junior year. That could qualify him or her as a National Merit Scholar. Several colleges around the US offer full rides on that alone.
   2. Prepare for the SAT and/or the ACT. You can take those tests as often as you want, but you should know that SAT scores follow you wherever you go, but you can pick and choose which ACT scores to send a college.
   3. Check out QuestBridge to see if you’d be eligible and if any of their partner colleges look interesting.
   4. Check out college websites to see if any SAT subject tests are required for entrance and take those too. Schools often have special requirements for homeschoolers.
   5. Build the extra-curricular resume. For example, let your child volunteer anywhere that looks interesting, do community theater, take music lessons and perform with community bands, attend academic camps, do 4H or Scouts, have a part-time job, start a business; the sky’s the limit!
   6. Find experts to tutor your child in their areas of need and/or interest. Peter had a wonderful math tutor in 9th grade.
   7. See if the local high school lets homeschoolers take classes. Ours does. Peter took choir.
   8. Enroll in community college classes. Peter took Composition and Physics the first semester of his senior year to prove to himself and to colleges that he could do college level work. He also earned some transferable credit.
   9. Many homeschooling groups offer classes. These can fill the "friendship" need and offer foreign language or upper level subjects that might interest your child. 
  10. Let your child follow his interests and become an expert. If I were the czarina of education, every high school would look like that.

I know there is much more to say about homeschooling high school, so please ask questions.

Jena began homeschooling in 1994. Her three children are now teenagers; one is graduated and attends  the University of Chicago on a full ride scholarship, the next one is 16 and pursues life without school in the arts, and the youngest is a freshman, trying out public school for the first time. In 2005 they bought a 7000 square foot church building and converted it into their home. You can read more about their adventures on her blog, yarns of the heart.

Comments

[Zach]

The community college in our area has a program in partnership with the schools called running start where high school students can take college classes and earn both an AA degree while also earning a high school diploma. Most of the homeschoolers I know did this program after Jr. High.

[Jena]

That's a great idea. My understanding is that if it's run in conjunction with the public schools, it's free--our tax dollars at work. Not every community college (or state) offers this, but it's worth a look. Some of the benefits would be more control over your class choices, accelerated learning, and saving money on college. I looked into this possibility, but it's not offered in our state.

[Susan gaissert]

Thanks for the great advice, Jena.

[Homeschool Your Teenager - Sherri]

Thanks for this article. I started homeschooling my son when he was age 11. He attended regular school until 5th grade. But each year school became harder and harder, mostly because of anxiety from past negative experiences.

I'm glad to hear positive stories of how teens can go on to college after unschooling if they choose. I'm not sure my son will go to college. He is much more interested in starting his own business online. But encouraging a child to pursue his or her passions no matter where they lead is the best thing we do for our kids.

Sherri

[piscesgrrl]

This is a very timely column! After trying high school for his freshman year (first schooling since Kindergarten), my 15 yr old is returning to homeschooling. He did great academically, but he missed his free time to pursue *his* interests - music and computer programming. We're now in the midst of figuring out what to do next. Your guidelines may prove very helpful - thanks!

[Jena]

Sherri, an online business sounds great! My next child (age 16) isn't sure she wants to go to college. She has several business ideas up her sleeve.

Piscesgrrl, my youngest is trying public school for the first time this year as a freshman. I'm hoping she decides to come back home like yours did. But as we all know, it's the interest and internal motivation that will make her a success no matter where she decides to spend these teenage years.

[Cathy Adamkiewicz]

Excellent post! I have homeschooled two of my kids (so far) through high school, and it is indeed possible. The eldest just graduated college with honors, so we must have done something right!
Even as an "old timer" I found helpful tips in your blog. Thanks for sharing. I'm back to schooling a high school senior (as well as a first and fourth grader) this year. It's always great to feel encouraged!

[Home School and Make Money]

IMHO, I think you should home school your High Schooler. You can give the personal attention your High School student needs and no one's going to care more about your child's education than you. BTW, great post.

[Home School College Counselor]

Great story! Glad to hear your son's success story. It sounds like you did a great job of preparing him as well!

[Gayle Lyn smith]

Jena, WHOA ! was your blog just what I needed, and at the right time. I have been following several HomeSchooling to college sites, as I am on the edge wanting to start homeschooling, but I AM SO SCARED that I am making a mistake. My only children are 16 year old boy - girl twins in the 10th grade.
Our life turned upside down nearly two years ago when our son came down with a devestating and rare disease, which left him completely paralyzed within one hours time.
He has since gotten most of his body back, but has suffered and continues to suffer in many ways - and our son will never be the same. He went from an extremely bright student to one that can hardly make it through the half days that he now attends.The school is lost and in all reality they do not know what to do with him, other than put him through an IEP. I drive three round trips back and forth every day, delivering both he and his sister to and from school, and quite frankly, I am just about ready to give up.
Both my children have expressed willingness to try homeschooling, and both fully plan on attending college. I just am so frightened of making mistakes as to their futures, and honestly, don't know how to put the pieces back together and get them both on a positive track. Our son has basically missed two years of school (although he attended as best he could), and his sister has fallen behind, due to the household stress. I am so impressed that your son got a full ride and to such a great school!
I sure could use some advise on how to start a curriculum for two tenth graders, who, by the way are very, very different learners, and hold very different strengths and interests. I WOULD LOVE TO CHAT WITH YOU WHEN YOU HAVE THE TIME, AS I AM TRULY READY TO PUT THINGS INTO AN ACTION PLAN. For starters, should I wait for this school year to be over? Best, Gayle in MI

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After trying high school for his first year, my 15 year old is returning to homeschooling. He did great academically, but he missed his free time to pursue his interests - music and computer programming.

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